To be Honest Sis.the only one that could do anything about
this situation is the person with the problem I sympathize with
you,I also come from a chaotic marriage all we could do if
you still want to stay marry to him is you your self get Help and knowledgeable,on this Disease of Addiction and Mental Disease
there are some helpful threads on this site go to
Relationship&Parenting sobriety I believe thats the name if not
sorry my memory fails me at time, I also suffer from Bipolar
and there are allot of helpful threads and they are some helpful skill people on this site that could Guide you.
I'll Be

for you and your Husband &Family.