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justanothrdrunk · 05-13-2008, 08:59 AM

I have a gay friend in the program who is sponsor shopping. Last evening he mentioned that he was going to ask a woman at our home group to be his sponsor. The unwritten rule is to have a same gender sponsor. As I understand things, this is primarily to avoid any romantic entanglements.

Applying that logic in his case, I guess he should seek an opposite gender sponsor. Or not. I don't know. I didn't say anything one way or another when he mentioned this last night. I didn't know if this is good or bad. But it got me thinking. How does it work when you're gay? Does the gender of your sponsor matter?

I know in the end that it's the quality of the sponsor that matters above gender. I was just curious what others thought.

Ready... set... discuss.

05-13-2008, 08:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
justanothrdrunk Retired Pro Drunk Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Saint Paul, MN Posts: 855	Opposite gender sponsor - gay sponsee I have a gay friend in the program who is sponsor shopping. Last evening he mentioned that he was going to ask a woman at our home group to be his sponsor. The unwritten rule is to have a same gender sponsor. As I understand things, this is primarily to avoid any romantic entanglements. Applying that logic in his case, I guess he should seek an opposite gender sponsor. Or not. I don't know. I didn't say anything one way or another when he mentioned this last night. I didn't know if this is good or bad. But it got me thinking. How does it work when you're gay? Does the gender of your sponsor matter? I know in the end that it's the quality of the sponsor that matters above gender. I was just curious what others thought. Ready... set... discuss.