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Originally Posted by citychick  We just need to take small steps in the right direction...
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Originally Posted by rustyzipper its none of our business what anyone thinks of us! |
Generous thanks for the insights you all shared. About being OK with being ones own self, not living for others, not allowing their judgment to determine for me who or what I am or will be. One "small step" I need to take is a bit of self-assertiveness. Like...being able to read and write as I choose, for instance. I'm not "supposed" to be reading and writing so much, nor so expressive, nor so loving...
But I'm weak. It took days to get back to being able to revisit SR.
It makes me angry to have to defend myself in those areas, as though I feel I have to justify my right to express myself as I choose.
Ann, you're not the first to suggest to me I look at codependency. I rejected the notion because it didn't seem I fit that profile, as I am extremely independent, self-reliant, even self-assured. And yet, there's this cowardly side of me that hides from everyone, as though they have some right to tell me how and what I should be. Why do I cater to that? It's not like I feel I NEED anyone. Though I do want and like and love the people who are part of my life. I'm nearly 40 years old and still run and hide like a scared little kid when others get upset with things about me. I will research into that book, "Codependent No More." MUCH appreciate your thoughtful kindness, willingness to share and support, all.