[serenityqueen]

When I first got into Recovery, I couldn't even focus on myself, much less a relationship.

There was so much for me to work on with just myself that if I tried to get into a new relationship, one or the other was going to suffer. And knowing myself,(however little I did at that time) I knew that it would be me.

I got into relationships with the wrong men, for the wrong reasons at the wrong times throughout most of my life. It didn't matter who came along, even if Mr. Perfect had been dropped out of the sky right in front of me, I would have had to walk away.

I am almost 3 years Clean & Sober and have yet to be in a relationship. Oh, sure, I've had more than a few guys from AA/NA who have asked me out, but honestly, I'm still learning about myself.

I'm in no way suggesting that anyone should have to wait 3 or more years to begin a relationship, but I have. I used for 32 of my 45 years and I have a lot of growing to do. Who knows? Tomorrow Mr. Perfect MAY drop out of the sky, if he does then I think I'm ready. But I'm in no rush to "find someone before it's too late." It won't be too late until they take a toe ring off and replace it with a toe tag. And I don't plan on that happening for a long, long time.



God Bless,
Judy