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babylonsister · 05-10-2008, 06:58 PM

I have been attending AA meetings and I have now been sober for 30 days. I first went to an AA meeting at the suggestion of my therapist, after I told her about my drinking habits. I have suspected for awhile that I had a drinking problem, but I just didn't want to say it out loud, because I wasn't ready to quit drinking. Well, lately I just grew tired of the guilt and problems associated with it and after my first few meetings, I could deny it no longer. I was an alcoholic and it was actually a relief to finally admit it! Well, I have spoken with my sister and mother about this and they are very surprised. I guess I have done a pretty good job of hiding the way I truly used to drink. I can tell my sister is trying to be supportive, but this has definately thrown her for a loop. My Mom, on the other hand, is adamant that I am not an alcoholic. That I just got the idea from someone else (like I'm not smart enough to decide for myself!) She said she is afraid I'm ruining my reputation by saying that I'm an alcoholic and that she is not going to tell anyone. She made me feel like a leper or someting! First of all, she has no clue about the disease of alcoholism, so I told her to do a little reading on it. She did this, and then came back and told me that if I were a true alcoholic, that I would be going through terrible withdrawals right now (which I know is not necessarily true) She just doesn't get it! I don't care whether she believes it or not, I know I have a problem and I'm trying to do something about it. But it just kills me that I feel I have to "convince" her of this, so she will understand. I'm sure if I went over the details of my drinking career, she might get it, but I definately don't wanna do that! How do I deal with this?

05-10-2008, 06:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
babylonsister Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 6	My family is in denial, not me! I have been attending AA meetings and I have now been sober for 30 days. I first went to an AA meeting at the suggestion of my therapist, after I told her about my drinking habits. I have suspected for awhile that I had a drinking problem, but I just didn't want to say it out loud, because I wasn't ready to quit drinking. Well, lately I just grew tired of the guilt and problems associated with it and after my first few meetings, I could deny it no longer. I was an alcoholic and it was actually a relief to finally admit it! Well, I have spoken with my sister and mother about this and they are very surprised. I guess I have done a pretty good job of hiding the way I truly used to drink. I can tell my sister is trying to be supportive, but this has definately thrown her for a loop. My Mom, on the other hand, is adamant that I am not an alcoholic. That I just got the idea from someone else (like I'm not smart enough to decide for myself!) She said she is afraid I'm ruining my reputation by saying that I'm an alcoholic and that she is not going to tell anyone. She made me feel like a leper or someting! First of all, she has no clue about the disease of alcoholism, so I told her to do a little reading on it. She did this, and then came back and told me that if I were a true alcoholic, that I would be going through terrible withdrawals right now (which I know is not necessarily true) She just doesn't get it! I don't care whether she believes it or not, I know I have a problem and I'm trying to do something about it. But it just kills me that I feel I have to "convince" her of this, so she will understand. I'm sure if I went over the details of my drinking career, she might get it, but I definately don't wanna do that! How do I deal with this?