Here's an important link that has some great information you both may find helpful.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...orksheets.html (Self Injury; Research, Bill of Rights and Worksheets)
It was put up by Done with it, one of our greeters. She's a fantastic young woman, and I'm sure when she sees this thread, she'll drop in!
Good luck to you both! :ghug
Shalom!