There was some question at one time as to whether or not my A was a sociopath. I don't know the answer, but I do know that his hardened edges have softened as he has some pseudo-recovery under his belt. He's not working a program ~ yet ~ but he's working towards one and making some better choices.
He was the first person with whom I set and maintained some firm boundaries. He caused some damage at my home and I found myself angry ... moreso that he didn't show remorse than for the damage that was done. BUT the more I thought about it, whether or not he said he was sorry, the damage was still done and I needed to set boundaries and take action so it wouldn't happen again!
It made me sad to think he didn't care, but the sadness was mine to own. I was looking for something from him that he was incapable of giving to me at the time... once again it was the idea of going to the hardware store for a loaf of bread!