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Originally Posted by Pinkcuda

Sounds to me like you're describing the difference between Men and Women in general.

I tend to disagree with this statement. People are all different. Not all women are emotional and not all men are strong and unfeeling. Personally I find the statement somewhat offensive. But I realize that it was probably not intended that way.

To respond to the question. Regardless of whether someone is an alcoholic or not each of us utilize the communication skills we are taught as we grow up. I was taught that feelings were not something to show or express especially if they could be taken as signs of weakness. I have had to learn how to communicate effectively as an adult. I had to read a lot of books, talk to and listen to people who are good communicators, learn to use I statements rather than you make me statements, learn to take responsiblity for my actions and words, etc.... Personally what you are going through does sound like fairly typical relationship communication difficulties. What you might try is seeking a relationship counselor, reading some effective communication books, try remembering that when someone else is talking especially your bf that many times it doesn't have to do with you (this is a hard one to learn). I have found that many times people don't clearly present their needs and wants but somehow expect the other person to know what they are thinking and just come up with it. Real life doesn't work that way as if mind readers exist I have not run into any yet. Communication is hard work but if the relationship is worth it to you then it is well worth the work. ALANON is an excellent place to learn some good communication skills. Good luck.