[NeedingAdvice]

Hi, this is my first post and I am posting cuz I have been struggling in my relationship with a recovering alcoholic and I need insight from the alcoholics point of view. My bf has been sober over 7 years and is a relatively young alcoholic (mid-20s) and I have been with him for over a year and half.

Now we have had our set of problems like any other couple but recently it has become apparent to me that our ways of communicating are drastically different. I need to discuss problems when they happen and am a big "feeler" meaning I have a lot of feelings and am very perceptive to my feelings. I am thin-skined to say the least and am easily offended and have a bit of a lack of confidence (not like I have a confidence issue but like I take things my bf says very emotionally). Anyways he always tells me I may a big deal out of nothing cuz I get offended very easily and overly emotional. His response to me when he believes I am creating problems over something that does not need a problem is to stonewall, shut down, become distant, take space/leave the problem, and not engage in fighting. Also he tells me I push him to talk and he gets angry by the fact that I push him. I try to get him to talk about his feelings but it takes him days to get to that point if I push him, weeks if not.

If this a typical response of a recovering alcoholic response? Is stonewalling, getting distant, taking a large amount of time and space normal? Am I doing something wrong? I feel like after a year and a half my bf is a mystery. I am seriously upset by this. I have tried to talk to him about it but he just claims that I make life or death situations out of the little things. I feel that I can't communicate with him sometimes and that we don't see eye to eye. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster recently. Help!