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lexusgirl · 04-26-2008, 08:02 PM

Very similiar situation although we weren't married, to what I had to deal with. Xabf would come home from his weekend binges all hungover, at first I used to yell and rant at him. Towards the end I just started to detach from him.

I went about things as though not a lot was wrong. Did what I had to for me; isolated in my room while he stayed in the guest room. He certainly was perplexed when I didn't say much to him. He would look at me like "aren't you going to yell at me?" I think it bothered him more that I took care of myself and my serenity.

Sounds like you got a good idea as to how to deal with this. And like you said arguing will get you nowhere. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. :ghug

04-26-2008, 08:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
lexusgirl play the tape all the way thru Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 481	Very similiar situation although we weren't married, to what I had to deal with. Xabf would come home from his weekend binges all hungover, at first I used to yell and rant at him. Towards the end I just started to detach from him. I went about things as though not a lot was wrong. Did what I had to for me; isolated in my room while he stayed in the guest room. He certainly was perplexed when I didn't say much to him. He would look at me like "aren't you going to yell at me?" I think it bothered him more that I took care of myself and my serenity. Sounds like you got a good idea as to how to deal with this. And like you said arguing will get you nowhere. Nothing changes if nothing changes. You're in my thoughts and prayers. :ghug __________________ Love shouldn't hurt this much.