| I was a secret drinker too and what bothered my husband the most was the lying.
I wouldn't say that he punished me, but there was definitely distance. And, for a very long time I didn't dare talk about my needs or feelings. I had so much guilt, I was just working very hard to try to make things better.
If you're done being punished and he is not ready to really forgive you, then it's a problem you need to work on. Being patient is very hard. At three months, your husband may still be wondering what is going to happen. What I learned in early sobriety is that you don't have control over the things you wish you could control. |