[tkdan]

Sponsors are people, meaning they are not perfect. Ask someone to be a temp sponsor that way if it does not work it was only temp. I was told find someone that has what you want. So you have to ask yourself what do you want out of recovery? I wanted a lasting and quality sobriety so I looked for someone that had been sober very long and seemed happy with life. If people are saying they wish they would have been more selective it sounds like they are just wanting to blame someone else for their problems IMHO. My sobriety is my responsibility. My sponsor is for taking me through the steps. What I do with it from there is up to me. And to answer your question it took about a month.