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(((Jerect))) First off I want to say I understand how you are feeling and have done the same in the past. But you cant control your husband and stop him from doing what he wants to do even if you look through his stuff.
What I learned about myself was even if I didnt find anything I would continue to look until something came up. It would make me sick all the obsessing aned validating I felt I needed to do. At some point you need to take the focus off of his recovery and put it on your own recovery, and your self well being. I dont know if you read this book or not but there is a great book called Codependent No More by Melody Beattie a must have for us who love our addicts.
I wish this could be easier but I understand its hard.
hugs,
Jewel
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The thing we feel most guilty doing or the thing we hate to do the most is probably the right thing to do where the addict is concerned. It is the hardest thing of all to do. And if you don't know what to do .. then best to do nothing (safer ground).
Thank you Passion
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