[glasshouse]

I have just recently been broke up with, rather suddently by my boyfriend who was a recovering alcoholic. We met 7 months ago and within our third date he both admitted he was a recovering alcoholic, as well as, the fact that he could not be in a serious relationship, however, did not really explain why (i assumed it had to do with recovery). When we met he was 10 months out of rehab, however, suffered a relapse 7 months prior. We continued to date and he eventually didnt seem to care about the idea of seriously dating. Around 3 months in he suffered a relapse for approximately 1 day and shortly thereafter asked me to be his girlfriend. Around one week later he freaked out about this and told me that we could not be together if he was unable to say i love you to me, which he wasnt at that point. He apprarently had been in love in other past relationships fairly quickly. I disregarded this and figured it had more to do with being freaked out about relationships, than anything else. Months past and approximately 6 weeks ago, he suffered a relapse for three days. When he came clean to me about this, I asked him to ensure me that he was serious about myself and the relationship, or else i didnt think i couldnt be there through incidents like this. He agreed and we seemed to grow even more close in the weeks thereafter. However, around one week ago, i told him that i loved him and the day after he broke up with me, explaining to me that there was a spark missing in the relationship, and that he could never give me long term happiness. This was all very sudden, and i am trying to make sense how much or how little has to do with being a recovering alcohic (who is clearly not recovered)? I am sure a bit, however, I just wanted to know if anyone had any advice or experience with such a situation, as I am trying to gain some clarity.