Hi, Rachael,
And welcome to SR, and the mental health forums!
Your mom sure sounds like a handful, all right! Wow!
How are you handling all of this?
See, the thing is, she's not here asking for help, and we are a support group that exists for the purpose of helping those seeking support. As you noted, we cannot *diagnose* your mom based on your description of her behaviors. But, those behaviors must have surely caused you some aingst during your life.
So, how are you doing?
Just a note, though. Bipolar is the same as manic depressive. It's just a new name the psy community has given it. And now, it's becomming known as bipolar spectrum! Oy! They keep changing thing! How are we to keep up with it all! :rof
You say you want to go for help. But, you don't say for what. Is it help for yourself? If so, for what exactly? In dealing with your feelings as a result of her behavior? That would certainly be understandable. I'm sure there's a lot to work through.
Or is it help for your mom you are looking for? She's going to want help for it to have any meaning, I'm afraid. And from what you say, it doesn't look like she has any insight into the fact that she may need help.
In either case, a good counselor or social worker can do wonders. Ask your doctor for a reference. S/he can help. If not, look in the phone book for your community mental health center.
Please let us know how you make out. We care...
Shalom!