Thread: How to detach
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Old 04-08-2008, 07:13 AM
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AskingWhy
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For me, detachment just happened on it's own I think more than anything. I don't recall making a conscious effort to say "I'm not going to let this/that bother me" or "I'm not going to react to this/that".

But what happened with me was that somewhere along the way I just stopped caring, for lack of a better term. I realized that I couldn't stop her from drinking, but that I didn't have to participate by going out to clubs or stopping to buy more booze...and I also realized that even if I drank an occasional beer in front of her it didn't matter because she was going to drink anyway....

So it got to a point where I'd just go do my own thing at the house or wherever and just didn't hang around her much. I can't say I did anything to make myself detach, it just happened naturally. What pushed me over the line was the continued dishonesty because I'd come to accept the drinking.
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