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Old 04-05-2008, 04:16 PM
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WantsOut
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Congrats on your sobertime! Woohoo for you!

Here's the deal - in many cases the sober spouse has had a lot invested in the drinking spouse. Years were spent trying to control your actions - make you "behave", worrying about you, fretting, wringing hands. And now ... now your behavior has changed and your spouse is at a loss. What next? What if he has to ... examine his own behavior? Worry about himself? Stop blaming you for ruining everything and ... look in the mirror? ACK!!

This will be messy but it can be weathered if you both want it badly enough.
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