Wow Bob... in my state of mind thats a bold question...
What do you do to be of service to others?
I, myself don't think i am much of a service to others in an emotional, supportive or positive sense... other than the basic like u describe like buying coffee, makin a meal, voluntering or being pleasant.
talkin about being capable to provide more than this basic and have meaningful service to others. i don't talk with my family due to distance/difference of opinon and the fact i don't wana pick up the phone n talk about the same old boring sh*t... that my life ain't a bed of roses... my family are a bunch of misfits... who the hell wants to hear that (again)....
oh well for suggestions... if u wana do a meaningful service for anyone/family... do it at no cost to urself...don't give a positive to create a negative.... that way they are pleased with ur effort n u don't resent urself or them or feel any codependant obligation to have to put up with anything that don't sit well in ur karma.
example... i rung my mum n offered to pay airfares for her n husband to visit me (even tho we only talk 1-2 times a yr, i miss her heaps) she made all these excuses... well every damn ph call/ visit to my mum since the time my parents devorced has ended up with so much hurt n tears for me. (long story cut short) i don't think i could do anything of meaning to/for my mum without it causing a negative backlash on my selfworth/pity.
in conclusion don't let it f*k ur head, do whats good for u, just let sleepin dogs lie n concentrate on those who need, benefit and apreciate ur energy n efforts.
my ramble @day2 home detox thanx
