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You have the right to set your boundaries and to stop people who hurt you from intruding into those boundaries.
All an abuser is going to do when they hear that -
when they realize they cannot destroy your boundary ...
is 'send an emissary' -
(a phrase *I* made up when working with battered women)
someone who they KNOW has the POWER of GUILT or SHAME ...
a mother, a family member, a minister ...
anyone they can manipulate into disrupting your life ...
into your newly established territory ...
then they can continue to disrupt your life ...
through that other person.
Either way - they (the abuser) is still interferring in your life - which is what they want.
Abuse continuees .. 'by proxy'.
And you don't *really* need someone like me ... to confirm that for you either.
Just every now and then. *hug*
That's okay - because on occasion -
I'm going to need to hear that as well.
But I remember you saying you've told your family members that you want nothing to do with this person ever again.
That ... should be enough for anyone.
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