Not too long ago, I posted a thread about my mother trying to force me into talking to my father. Well, she is finally understanding (again) that he isn't a part of my life and hasn't been for an extremely long time.
My sister was another who told me she didn't want him in her life either. She never really saw or even experienced everything that happened. We have a big age gap of 8 years almost.
To make a long story short, my father was verbally and physically abusive to me and my mother. He drugged me as a child and talked horrible about my husband along with his parents who "shunned" me from the family because my husband is Mexican. They spoke horrible about my daughter (who is Mexican-American).
I get this surprising email from my sister:
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hey..dad said for you to call or e-mail him b/c he wants to talk to u before u have the baby?...i decided to talk to him b/c me not talking to him is stupid...we only have one life and i would rather talk to him and try to help him before it's too late and he is in an internal damnation..i know i would appreciate my kids still talking to me even though i screwed up..but no one's perfect..i'm on this earth to witness and talk about God..my father should be no exception!
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Here is my response:
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Yes we only have one life. God wants me to not have toxic people in it either. He wants me to see about my family first and foremost and not include people in their lives that will bring them down. My father brings me down everytime I even talk to him. He puts me in relapse mode and I honestly don't want to begin using again. I have my kids to think of.
I don't care what you do with him, it is your decision. Whatever you want.
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What are your thoughts?