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Interesting. That is not the case in my situation. She rarely drank during the 2 1/2 year relationship and the behaviors were still there. She was just a very difficult person and I could never figure out why she wasn't understanding my concerns, but now I realize she was not thinking the same as me. she started drinking towards the end of the relationship and blamed her unhappiness but also sad she was doing nothing wrong by not coming home and staying out all night with people I didn't even know. She didn't want me around because she wasn't out. I planned to break up with her or at the very least seperate for a bit and told her we needed to talk and as soon as I said that it was no holds barred. It was really awful and she basically just started doing whatever she wanted while still living with me and really lost control. I think she was tyring to hurt me so I wouldn't be the one to leave, but I loved/love her and if she just would have been rational, I wouldn't have tried to leave. But I guess that's the point of BPD right?
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