Hello everyone,
It´s normal we feel this way. We grew up loving the people who hurt us - our parents or caretakers. The child inside of us needs to win back that love in order to feel whole. That´s why we often choose difficult spouses or people who we feel don´t give us enough love.
There is never enough love, the empty hole inside can never be filled, unless we work hard to claim back the hurt child and nurture it. No one can do it for us. If we work hard at it, we can finally give something to others, instead of being twisted, hostile, picking fights, cheating - in short punishing the wrong person for the sins of our parents.
I visualize the child in front of me. I talk to her soothingly and I tell her I will protect her. I tell her she is worthy of love and success.
This is only the beginning! It´s hard work.