[nandm]

My experience with an abusive father, pedophile, is this. My parents are still married. My mother has been told by of what happened and still chose to stay with him. I could not handle living near them. I currently live over 2000 miles away. I am in contact via email with my mother. I basically have no contact with my father. That is one reason I do not contact my mother via phone, I don't want to have to deal with him answering the phone.

Here are my thoughts on it.
* I don't owe him anything.
* I am responsible for my physical and emotional safety.
When I deal with him my emotional safety is at risk, as I am no longer a vulnerable child my physical safety is no longer at risk.
* Sometimes the next right thing is self care.
* I am not responsible for someone elses happiness. I can not make them happy nor can I make them sad.