[Juls]

Lilya,

It is important to recognize that inner child. That child needs love and nurturing in order to grow up. That is where we have to learn how to "parent" ourselves.

I like to let my inner child come out and play, and know that it is o.k. to feel angry at something. How I allow myself to react is my choice and decision, and I have learned that I can allow that child to be angry, but yet express it in a healthy way.

Some of my ways of letting my inner child play are: acting silly with my daughter, treating myself to something she would like, (I have bought myself dolls because I never had any as a child), reading children's books and watching children't movies, (two of my favorite books are "Charlotte's Web" and "The Wind in the Willows"), drawing and coloring, allowing myself to feel that "innocence" I felt as a child.

We all have inner children, and many of us have inner children that were badly hurt growing up. Learning how to take care of ourselves and nurture that inner child will lead to more healthy behavior, a feeling of peace within oneself, and increased self-confidence.

Juls