TOOMUCH, IMHO If you were doing all of the things that they are asking of you now, while you were drinking and they know that you are working on recovery, the only thing that they expect to be different is you being sober.
Maybe sit down and have a family meeting so everyone hears the same message and explain that your trying and its a daily struggle and that you can use their help to get thru it.Maybe tell hubby that you'll need his support and help in the days to come. Only you know what direction you want to go in,and being sober and all the decisions (Determination; firmness of mind) in that regard must be yours.
Linda