This might help:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...visualize.html (Visualize This)
Also, you can do different types of things. Take classes; go to different places; take a singles cruise or sign up for one of the dating sites. Any number of things. What you're doing isn't working, right? So, try something different. What have you got to lose?
And then, say "no" to the married ones!
Shalom!