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It depends on your intention with the "no contact"...I would think.
But I don't think by not contacting you are trying to gain some kind of end result.
You are standing by what you believe in, in regards to what you want and don't want and deserve in your life. There is nothing wrong with that. As a codie I have struggles with this and had struggled for a long time to instill the boundaries and self worth back into my life after I divorced my AH. It's indicative of addict behavior to try to manipulate, guilt, etc... You're not giving in and he has resolved to move on. Let him move on.....and you should continue to move on with your life and do for you to make your life better for yourself. Believe me...it is so easy to be drawn into the life of an addict and "fall under their spell" because guilt and empathy are such powerful emotions. It's uncomfortable to feel them so we try to relieve them by doing what the addict wants but then we end up neglecting ourselves.
With love we make ourselves vulnerable to pain. I'm sorry for your hurt...I know how that feels but believe me that it will pass.
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