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Originally Posted by lesa  odd quest .how many have loss relationships when u got clean .as i said he is clean yet we fight a lot ..we do not get along..I have so much resentment against him..I hate him sometimes...I can not get past the abuse ,lies ,stealing from me,leaving me homeless and broken promises ..I fell he still selfish even when he is clean ..not sure what iam asking .. |
I didnt lose the relationship but can relate to the anger and resentment. I felt much the same towards my partner when we cleaned up (we used together, cleaned up together). I was so angry about a lot of the stuff that happened in the past and really resentful that he still wasnt pulling his weight when clean. We didnt seem to be able to be close at all, i was always screaming at him, i felt completely unloved and thought that i was just waiting until i had the strength to leave.
That was over 5yrs ago now and so much has changed. We are still together. He is a good, kind and responsible man and my best friend.