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Originally Posted by David 1  There is no question that only he can make the decision to not take that drink. "Sticking by" can sometimes be the worst thing due to enabling/codependence issues, but I do think it is time for you to tell him to get help (AA, treatment) or he risks losing you!
I really hate to give that kind of advice, but I worry about the anger and hate comments.
Think about it - I am sure others here will offer their wise advice too.
As alcoholics, most times we have to hit bottom before we are ready to accept recovery. It does not appear he has done that yet.
Dave |
Thank you also David, spooky - you share his name.
And I worry also about the anger, I'm sure others may read that and think "you silly silly woman - run and don't look back". Though the hard thing is, I know other sides to him, I know a different person before he became hooked.
I have invested time and love in this relationship and I guess my dignity is a part of me trying so very very hard. I spent all day yesterday crying over this all, I am at the point to give up. I feel I'm wasting my life.