[SugarLily]

I'm thinking I already know the answer to the above but I just I don't know. I don't want to give up on someone who is an amazing human being when sober - but completely changes when he is drunk.

I guess I need to give a bit of background. We'd been together for 5 years. About 2 years in we bought our own home and he started to work in the labouring field, I don't want to give too many specifics but the kind of job in Engand where all the men pop to the pub for a "pint" after. Only he cannot stop at one pint. Not a chance, I've found him in terrible states, I've found him asleep in the garden, I've discovered he once fell in a lake and had to be pulled out. Furious rows would errupt, financial problems kicked in and the pub was his escape, I know he felt a failure for the problems of bills and having no money so his miraculous answer would be to hide at the pub. This just sank us further into trouble. I'd sit alone at night crying, begging him to come home.

This is the part where I am going to be told for a fact to leave. When he drinks - he's aggressive - not to me I hasten to add but he will take his aggression out on doors, objects etc... I left many a time. I was so strong - I told everyone I knew how things had collapsed only to find myself really feeling sorry for him. I am a very caring person - I don't want him to throw his life away. I know I can move on but I worry for him. His job will be in danger if he continues his drinking, all I want- all I want is for us to be a family.

When he's sober - he's so full of remorse, he's a wonderful guy - loves kids and animals. When he's drunk though - its Jeckyl & Hyde, he is the wrst person, full of hate and anger.

Give it to me straight please - am I being a fool?