Hey there Growing
I _love_ doing fourth steps; I feel _so_ much better afterward it's amazing.
One of my sponsors taught me that I do _not_ have character "defects". What I have is character _traits_. It's how I choose to _use_ those traits that turns them into defects or virtues.
I have a lot of empathy for people; that is a "trait". If I use that empathy to drive me to worry, to try and control people so they don't make mistakes they could learn from, it's become "controlling". That is a defect. If I take that empathy to make me a good friend that listens to people in pain and help those who can't do something for themselves then it's "compassion", and a virtue.
A fourth step is not about _you_. It's about how you apply yourself to the challenges of life, it's about your behaviors and learned responses.
Am I making sense?
Mike