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I'm still new to this, so take it with a grain of salt, but this is how I look at it when I am admitting my faults, nutty thinking, etc.: I am not my thoughts. I am not my emotions. I am not even the self-criticism. I, the part of me that is aware of the thoughts and feelings and behavior, have the power to become more and more aware of these things and to choose differently.
It keeps me honest without giving in to the self-defeat.
Of course, easier said than done, and it takes a lot of practice. I'm finding it nearly impossible to be "aware" when I am emotionally triggered right now, and can only acknowledge my distorted perception after the damage is done, after the argument, or whatever.
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