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Usually, however, other people are involved. Therefore we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice others to save himself from the alcoholic pit. A man we know had remarried. Because of resentment and drinking, he had not paid alimony to his first wife. She was furious. She went to court and got an order for his arrest. He had commenced our way of life, had secured a position, and was getting his head above water. It would have been impressive heroics if he had walked up to the Judge and said, “Here I am.”

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We must not lighten our own load while increasing the burden of others. Careful thought and consultation with others must precede each amend we make. Selfishly pursuing our own relief while disregarding the best interest of others will only compound our problems.