LL,
I'm glad to hear that you connected with another woman at the meeting, and that you are going to a women's meeting tonight. My home group is for women, and I've made invaluable connections there.
I understand the fear of arriving late and being stared at, because I feel that way too sometimes, but I agree that it's best to go anyway. Walk through the fear and it will seem less daunting next time.
Let us know how it goes at the meeting.