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Old 02-16-2008, 11:47 AM   #4 (permalink)
barb dwyer
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Hy DaV -

I'd stop all action in the house ... and gently tell her the first part of that paragraph:
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Valentines isn't part of her culture. She's Japanese, and valentines is something she has never celebrated even when she was married. Although she had no one to celebrate with, she did get chocolates from me. When she needs attention, she simply has to walk into the kitchen or living room and talk. She doesn't. If more attention is what she needs, we've suggested on many many occasions that she call friends. Her answer "No. I don't want to bother them." We put her in a program that takes seniors to a recreational center to do all sorts of activities with people her age (Paid for by the local government)...she went once and said she didn't like it and refused to go again. She never gave us a reason for not liking it. Everything is there for her to take, to make life easier for her
My cousin is Japanese. as the man of the house, outsider or not - I know you know the protocol for the talk. Then tell her this is your night to court your wife, and this is not appropriate social behavior for her tongiht... as it *is* a matter of reaffirming courtship.
*sly smile*
then tomorrow - maybe take her to dinner - without her daughter.

JMO
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