Thank you to everyone. I'm taking one day at a time, and am attending al-anon meetings too. I am still 'with' him, but like I said, i'm taking it one day at a time. He and I had an honest discussion, and he knows this is it. I am willing to stand back and see what he will do to recover, but that's all I can do. If I feel it's not enough, or if I feel like I can't take the stress and uncertainty, then I will cross that bridge when I come to it. For now, I am watchign and waiting to see... I really appreciate everyone's supportive words, and it has helped me to stand back and re-examine my situation. Hugs!!