[DaVinci2]

Valentines isn't part of her culture. She's Japanese, and valentines is something she has never celebrated even when she was married. Although she had no one to celebrate with, she did get chocolates from me. When she needs attention, she simply has to walk into the kitchen or living room and talk. She doesn't. If more attention is what she needs, we've suggested on many many occasions that she call friends. Her answer "No. I don't want to bother them." We put her in a program that takes seniors to a recreational center to do all sorts of activities with people her age (Paid for by the local government)...she went once and said she didn't like it and refused to go again. She never gave us a reason for not liking it. Everything is there for her to take, to make life easier for her. She does the opposite and makes life harder for everyone.

As for her saying "I feel sick, but I'll be OK." is not OK. It's like crying wolf. She says it to get attention, but then when she really needs help, or she really is sick, we're not sure how to handle it. If she's feeling sick, and she wants some help or medicine or advice, then that's fine. But she says it JUST to get attention...and more often than not, it's right when my wife is about to sit and eat after a long day at work, go out (To a meeting with friends), or do something else. It doesn't happen when she's watching TV or reading a book or relaxing around the house...