[caraway]

Hello Jane, wow, sounds like you have such a lot to cope with. I'm a carer for my mother in law who's 89 but we also get help for her too. She's on pension credits so its mostly free help that she gets. Isn't there something like that in NY? Sounds like you should look into any help available. There are also self help groups over here for care givers, perhaps theres something like that in NY.

Newsandi, just thought I'd mention, I've had a schizophrenic illness when I was in my 20's and again when I was older. It was described as acute as not all schizophrenial is chronic, ie its really bad for several months then it goes away. Just mentioning this as if your son is having mental problems, they may not be permanent or perhaps will get a bit better in time. I never took the meds they gave me - I thought it was another plot to poison/get rid of me, but I got better anyway. Eventually! But as Splendra says theres alot about schizo and mental illness in general that is not really known, even by the 'experts'.