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dotcom · 11-23-2003, 10:36 AM

hi lilya

i have a friend like that. after i got cleaned up, we hung out a lot. she had a bf who was pretty nice. but he wasnt "around" enough for her, so they broke up. she remained single with me for about 2 months...and she told me how nice it felt to be free. and then she got another bf who has to be with her every second of every moment of every day. she made plans with me and never followed through, she stopped emailing and calling me, and it was horrible! i was so angry and i was "badmouthing" her. i now realize that was wrong, but i was just so hurt i didnt know what to do with it. i finally got up the courage to confront her about why she didnt follow through with our plans, and she acted like she didnt know about them...but she did apologize. then she blew off our plans to go to disneyland and went there with someone else! well, that hurt. i like what you wrote about "trimming hedges", i think she cant handle some of the things ive gone through. thanx i never thought of that!

recently though ive been letting her make the plans with me, and if i can tell she really wants to see me ill make plans with her. we have known eachother for at least 14 years (since we were kids) and during my addiction we didnt associate. im trying to not depend on her solely for "friendship" and i think she sees that. that must have been a burden on her, i dont know. but yeah, ive been hanging out with my sponsor and branching out. thanx again for making me think!!!!

dotcom

11-23-2003, 10:36 AM	#7 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,636	hi lilya i have a friend like that. after i got cleaned up, we hung out a lot. she had a bf who was pretty nice. but he wasnt "around" enough for her, so they broke up. she remained single with me for about 2 months...and she told me how nice it felt to be free. and then she got another bf who has to be with her every second of every moment of every day. she made plans with me and never followed through, she stopped emailing and calling me, and it was horrible! i was so angry and i was "badmouthing" her. i now realize that was wrong, but i was just so hurt i didnt know what to do with it. i finally got up the courage to confront her about why she didnt follow through with our plans, and she acted like she didnt know about them...but she did apologize. then she blew off our plans to go to disneyland and went there with someone else! well, that hurt. i like what you wrote about "trimming hedges", i think she cant handle some of the things ive gone through. thanx i never thought of that! recently though ive been letting her make the plans with me, and if i can tell she really wants to see me ill make plans with her. we have known eachother for at least 14 years (since we were kids) and during my addiction we didnt associate. im trying to not depend on her solely for "friendship" and i think she sees that. that must have been a burden on her, i dont know. but yeah, ive been hanging out with my sponsor and branching out. thanx again for making me think!!!! dotcom __________________ probably not.