(((Lilya)))
It sounds like you have made the right choice regarding your friend. Like I said your situation with her is similar to the way it was with me and my friend. She got to where she was passive about any problems that I might have, as a matter of fact she acted like it made her mad if you mentioned any problems or illness to her. It was as tho, she was the only one in life that ever had anything bad to happen, and she didnt want to hear that you may be sick, or that something was wrong. In other words she became very self centered. So for me its like you said about your friendship with your friend, that you dont feel like the relationship is good for you, and thats the way I feel about mine.
I like what your sponsor says about "trimming hedges," "in recovery some branches will fall". I'll have to remember that.
I wish you the best. Take care, and have a great day. Love and ((hugs)) Bonni