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gravity · 01-13-2008, 08:50 PM

I'm only 4 weeks into the AA program and have a great sponsor but a comment he made last week is kind of bothering me. He knows my story and referred to me as a "high bottom" drunk - likely because my career and family are still intact. What bothers me is that it makes me feel like he thinks that I am "lucky" or haven't suffered enough - almost like I have to lose everything to really bottom out. In addition to the obvious damage that I have done because of drinking, I have caused so much hurt to the people I love and have had periods of such extreme self-hatred, it's undescribable. I don't feel "lucky" at all!

Anyway, should I file this one under "resentments" and deal with it that way? Should I just suck it up and try to forget about it? Should I try and put it in a different context (I'm being too sensitive) and not worry about it?

My sponsor is a great person and I don't want to consider finding a new one over an (apparent) casual remark. Any advice would be very appreciated.

Thanks.

01-13-2008, 08:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
gravity where the light is Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,709	"High Bottom" Drunk - Need Advice I'm only 4 weeks into the AA program and have a great sponsor but a comment he made last week is kind of bothering me. He knows my story and referred to me as a "high bottom" drunk - likely because my career and family are still intact. What bothers me is that it makes me feel like he thinks that I am "lucky" or haven't suffered enough - almost like I have to lose everything to really bottom out. In addition to the obvious damage that I have done because of drinking, I have caused so much hurt to the people I love and have had periods of such extreme self-hatred, it's undescribable. I don't feel "lucky" at all! Anyway, should I file this one under "resentments" and deal with it that way? Should I just suck it up and try to forget about it? Should I try and put it in a different context (I'm being too sensitive) and not worry about it? My sponsor is a great person and I don't want to consider finding a new one over an (apparent) casual remark. Any advice would be very appreciated. Thanks.