Brewster- well said that step 3 is a giving up of our "known quality" and accepting things as they come. Congrats on 20 mos. sober
BEST- "I needed to give away control to gain control" that is the exact conclusion I am coming to. All the control I thought I had is just an illusion. I was not only trying to be my own HP but my family member's HP too. It took me a long time, but thank GOD I know that is false. That thinking was really the source of much of the conflict.