[nandm]

How did you perceive that loving detachment? I believe it is absolutely necessary for the survival of those whose lives the alcoholic touches regardless of whether that alcoholic is in recovery or actively using. The reason I say this is because alcoholics have developed traits that can be destructive to themselves and those around them. The biggest one is control/manipulation. Even as a recovering alcoholic I still work on this defect. I have come a long way with it but am always checking my motives to ensure I am not controlling or manipulating.

Do you feel it helped you reach a "bottom" any quicker? Or do you feel that it had no difference at all in your journey to recovery? I hnestly don't know. It might have got me seeking help sooner but until I was ready to accept my powerlessness over alcohol I was not ready for recovery.

Did you feel your loved one was abandoning you? Or did you know you were loved? I did not have people around me that did loving detachment so I am unable to answer this question.