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sojourner · 01-11-2008, 07:49 AM

To those of you in recovery who, while still using, had family members who practiced the loving detachment of Alanon -

How did you perceive that loving detachment?
Do you feel it helped you reach a "bottom" any quicker? Or do you feel that it had no difference at all in your journey to recovery?
Did you feel your loved one was abandoning you? Or did you know you were loved?

I'm not talking about angry detachment, i'm talking about the loving detachment that is taught in Alanon and other family groups.

We family members are given advice from two camps - 1) nothing we do makes any difference in the journey of the addict or 2) our getting "healthy" has a positive effect on the addict (and, conversely, our not getting "healthy" has a negative effect on the addict).

Thanks in advance for your input...

Sue

01-11-2008, 07:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
sojourner Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Eastern Time Zone Posts: 774	To those of you with family members who practiced To those of you in recovery who, while still using, had family members who practiced the loving detachment of Alanon - How did you perceive that loving detachment? Do you feel it helped you reach a "bottom" any quicker? Or do you feel that it had no difference at all in your journey to recovery? Did you feel your loved one was abandoning you? Or did you know you were loved? I'm not talking about angry detachment, i'm talking about the loving detachment that is taught in Alanon and other family groups. We family members are given advice from two camps - 1) nothing we do makes any difference in the journey of the addict or 2) our getting "healthy" has a positive effect on the addict (and, conversely, our not getting "healthy" has a negative effect on the addict). Thanks in advance for your input... Sue