The hiding is what I never understood, either. We enjoyed alcohol, and always kept it in the house. When I realized my AH was hiding his drinking I knew he had a problem. I did confront him. He flat out denied, vehemently, that he had been drinking anything at all. He had never lied to me before, or had he?? I then had to question everything he had said to me in the past; and knew I couldn't live with him if I had to question everything he would tell me in the future. I left 2 months ago and have not regretted it.