[Juls]

Lilya,

I would not necessarily sever ties, because what is happening to her now is taking up all her time and energy and she really doesn't have anything to give. She probably does not want to talk about her situation since it is painful. Many times people go into hiding when going through something like this.

If she has been a good friend to you in the past, and if/when he passes from his cancer she will need a friend to talk to. I don't know that she is deliberately shutting you out, well maybe deliberately, but not with cruel or mean intentions.

I know some people reach out more when they are going through a crisis, but for me I tend to withdraw. When my mother was dying of cancer, it pretty much took all my emotional and physical resources to take care of and support her. I put alot of friendships on hold during that time.

I think you have to evaluate the friendship as a whole to make that decision.

I hope this has been helpful.

Juls