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***nandm*** · 12-23-2007, 01:15 PM

Tenth Step Invento

Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred-forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness (p. 62, Alcoholics Anonymous).

INCIDENT:

1. HOW WAS I SELFISH (i.e., thinking only of myself, or not putting myself in someone else's position)?

2. HOW WAS I RESENTFUL (and what was the basis of this resentment)?

3. HOW WAS I AFRAID (How does this demonstrate a lack of faith, misplaced faith, or faith in a negative outcome)?

4. HOW WAS I DISHONEST (by commission or omission)?

5. HOW DID I DEMAND TO CONTROL ("Do it my way")?

6. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE RIGHT ("I told you so!")?

7. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE A VICTIM ("Poor me!")?

8. HOW WAS I DEFIANT ("Don't confuse me with the facts, I've made up my mind!")?

9. HOW WAS I IN DENIAL ("I don't care, I want it my way!")

10. WHO DID I HURT AND HOW DID I HURT THEM (i.e., who was affected as a result of my action or inaction)?

11. HOW CAN I REPAIR THE DAMAGE (i.e., how can I put right what I've put wrong)?

12. WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE BETTER (i.e., what actions could I have taken to improve the situation)?

12-23-2007, 01:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
*nandm* Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 6,580	questions part 5 Tenth Step Invento Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred-forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness (p. 62, Alcoholics Anonymous). INCIDENT: 1. HOW WAS I SELFISH (i.e., thinking only of myself, or not putting myself in someone else's position)? 2. HOW WAS I RESENTFUL (and what was the basis of this resentment)? 3. HOW WAS I AFRAID (How does this demonstrate a lack of faith, misplaced faith, or faith in a negative outcome)? 4. HOW WAS I DISHONEST (by commission or omission)? 5. HOW DID I DEMAND TO CONTROL ("Do it my way")? 6. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE RIGHT ("I told you so!")? 7. HOW DID I DEMAND TO BE A VICTIM ("Poor me!")? 8. HOW WAS I DEFIANT ("Don't confuse me with the facts, I've made up my mind!")? 9. HOW WAS I IN DENIAL ("I don't care, I want it my way!") 10. WHO DID I HURT AND HOW DID I HURT THEM (i.e., who was affected as a result of my action or inaction)? 11. HOW CAN I REPAIR THE DAMAGE (i.e., how can I put right what I've put wrong)? 12. WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE BETTER (i.e., what actions could I have taken to improve the situation)? __________________ NOTE: All BB quotes are from the 1st Edition of the Big Book Depression is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of being too strong for too long.