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Step Nine ~ Part 3: Questions

"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."




1. Are there people on your amends list who have died? In what way did you make your amend to them?

2. Would you explain what "living amends" means to you and share one experience and the results with the group?

3. Are there amends that you cannot make directly without harming "them or others?" Explain.

4. AA Big Book, page 82, reads "Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober. Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home if he doesn't. But he is yet a long way from making good to the wife or parents whom for years he has so shockingly treated..............The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept the home in turmoil. We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough." The question then is: Is abstinence really enough? Explain.