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***nandm*** · 12-23-2007, 01:08 PM

Step Eight ~ Part 4

"Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."

Question 1. What amends are obviously straightforward? I broke, I'll have it fixed. I stole it, I'll pay for it or return it. I lied, I need to tell the truth.

Question 2. What amends will be difficult? How might I go about preparing myself for them? How does being willing include being prepared? How can I resolve the issues about possible consequences?

Question 3: What is my own attitude toward amends? Where is my heart? A child may be forced to tell someone they are sorry, but the apology may not be heartfelt at all. I need to think about my motivations in making amends. True, the program demands it, and I may do it for that reason. But my heart might not really be in it.

12-23-2007, 01:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
*nandm* Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 6,580	questions part 4 Step Eight ~ Part 4 "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." Question 1. What amends are obviously straightforward? I broke, I'll have it fixed. I stole it, I'll pay for it or return it. I lied, I need to tell the truth. Question 2. What amends will be difficult? How might I go about preparing myself for them? How does being willing include being prepared? How can I resolve the issues about possible consequences? Question 3: What is my own attitude toward amends? Where is my heart? A child may be forced to tell someone they are sorry, but the apology may not be heartfelt at all. I need to think about my motivations in making amends. True, the program demands it, and I may do it for that reason. But my heart might not really be in it. __________________ NOTE: All BB quotes are from the 1st Edition of the Big Book Depression is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of being too strong for too long.