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Originally posted by Lilya
What can I do? My mother and brother told me not to tell my father about the house and the cat. I don´t want to make my father even sadder, but I don´t want to lie to him either. Please help. I feel as if I was hit by a car. [/B]
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This post really hit me hard, Lilya. Why do you have to be sworn to this type of secrecy when this was their decision? I remember you writing about the rebuilding of your relationship with your dad and that he is quite ill. Isn't this part and parcel of a family conspiracy--not yours', but your mother's and brother's?
It really angers me when others attempt to get me to join their delusions and folly. I'm sorry if I'm coming off hard against your family, but I recall your post about your father, Lilya. Too much work went into your relationship with him, in my opinion, to keep a lie from him when he is fully aware of his surroundings.
Personally, and this is only my opinion, a clear message should be given to the two of the other members of your family--"Since I have not had any input into the decision regarding my dad's cat and home, I really have no investment in keeping secrets from him, either."
We are given but one chance on this ball and I wouldn't jeopardize my principles and engage in what is being asked of you. You have worked too damned hard on your recovery, relationship with your father, and your career to indulge in this silliness.
I'm an animal lover too, and this stuff about killing the cat is unacceptable. Can the nursing home allow your father to keep the cat? Is there any way you can talk to the administrator since, as you know, being around animals helps people with their emotional being. Right now, I'm with my DottyDog who just had 21 teeth extracted this morning and is heavily sedated. She is 14 years old, but she is still in good shape. There must be a way to not have to euthanize the cat. Do you have animal rescue teams in France? Does the French government provide for abandoned animals? Just a thought, my friend. I am praying for this crisis to be resolved as I can only imagine how you must feel.
God Bless You